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Nov. 14th, 2010 @ 11:17 am Hello!
Current Location: Northeast Tennessee
Current Music: The Beauty of Grace - Krystal Meyers
Hi, everyone! I'm magyargirl3 , and I'm glad to have found a place like this for Christians who don't want children.

I'm 19 and going to a Christian (PCUSA) college. Amazingly, my classmates couldn't care less about my not having kids (well, there are a few notable exceptions, but they're mostly freshmen, and, as such, don't know me really well). However, two of my professors scoff at it. Both are men, but it would be just as infuriating to have female profs say it. What's even more infuriating? One of said profs has never been married or had children, yet he acts as if it's inevitable that I'll want babies. Newsflash, buddy: I had that baby craze when I was 16...and I didn't go out and get pregnant, and I got over it.

I go to an area Lutheran (ELCA) church with one of the Theater profs and his family - a wife and almost - two - year - old daughter. Though I've kinda "adopted" his daughter as my little sister and I love the girl to death, I am so glad I don't have to take her home with me. I would go batshit if I had to be around her most of the day - she's at that age where you really can't talk to her or reason with her, so it's quite frustrating (The prof and his wife know about my childfreedom and are okay with it).

So, how about all of you? Did you go/Are you going to a Christian college? Were you harrassed or did other people just not care?

P. S. I need some advice. Do any of you women know of any good Bible study material or devotional material directed at college - age women? I haven't really found anything that's not for teens or for women my mom's age. Any kind of points in the right direction would be awesome.
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Date:November 15th, 2010 05:15 am (UTC)
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Huh. I did not go to a Christian college so that wasn't an issue per se, but I certainly did run into people who when they ask "do you plan to have kids ever" and I said "No" they would smile knowingly and say, "Just you wait" or "Well, that'll change" or something. I got that a lot at church, particularly in my 20s. I just smiled back at them politely at the time, all through my 20s and 30s--I mean, what can you do for people who are clearly stuck in a previous decade? And now I'm 42, no kids, got my tubes tied years ago, and it's as clear as clear can be that they were wrong. Some people think it's inevitable, but they are wrong, just like people who think "girls can't do math" or "boys don't cry" are wrong.

The nice thing about the church environment, though, is I could point out, "Look, being a parent is a calling; and I am not called to be a parent at this point" and that tended to work well. People understand the idea of "calling" to various ministries, and that parenthood is a heck of a ministry. Not everyone is called to be in any given ministry at any given time, and my gifts were clearly being used elsewhere. It also allowed that things could change and that no one's mind was shut to any possibilities, which means I don't directly contradict the old fogies who feel no woman is complete without kids... (gngngngng...)

Re: bible study stuff--sorry, I have never looked for devotional material that was specific to women. I tend to find materials that are geared "toward women" are all about the issues that come with--you guessed it!!--being a mother. ;)
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Date:November 15th, 2010 11:46 am (UTC)
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I go along with the theory that if God had intended for me to have kids, He would have planted that desire in my heart. He has other plans for me, probably something that having kids would hinder (or would not be fair for the kids).

As for devotional material, see if you can find a Christian bookstore near you. The people working there may have some good ideas, and speaking with someone in person will be more helpful than trying to do a search online - though that's an option too.

I'm not a "dedicated" Christian and don't tend to go hunting for literature, so i don't know much of what's out there. I often get turned off by what i've found, usually because it'll say something contrary to my nature even though it may ring true for someone else...or just be boring fluff.