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From:jaipur
Date:November 15th, 2010 05:15 am (UTC)
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Huh. I did not go to a Christian college so that wasn't an issue per se, but I certainly did run into people who when they ask "do you plan to have kids ever" and I said "No" they would smile knowingly and say, "Just you wait" or "Well, that'll change" or something. I got that a lot at church, particularly in my 20s. I just smiled back at them politely at the time, all through my 20s and 30s--I mean, what can you do for people who are clearly stuck in a previous decade? And now I'm 42, no kids, got my tubes tied years ago, and it's as clear as clear can be that they were wrong. Some people think it's inevitable, but they are wrong, just like people who think "girls can't do math" or "boys don't cry" are wrong.

The nice thing about the church environment, though, is I could point out, "Look, being a parent is a calling; and I am not called to be a parent at this point" and that tended to work well. People understand the idea of "calling" to various ministries, and that parenthood is a heck of a ministry. Not everyone is called to be in any given ministry at any given time, and my gifts were clearly being used elsewhere. It also allowed that things could change and that no one's mind was shut to any possibilities, which means I don't directly contradict the old fogies who feel no woman is complete without kids... (gngngngng...)

Re: bible study stuff--sorry, I have never looked for devotional material that was specific to women. I tend to find materials that are geared "toward women" are all about the issues that come with--you guessed it!!--being a mother. ;)