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May. 19th, 2013 @ 07:26 pm Hello
I just want to say how happy I am that I have found a community like this. It sometimes seems like I take blows from every direction: co-workers, friends, and family on the decision to not have children. It goes so far as to people sometimes have me believing what a horrible person I am for not wanting kids. My husband did initially want kids, but I laid it out in the very beginning that I do not want them, and that is unlikely to change. I have had people tell me he shouldn't have married me. We have other things we want to do with our child-free lives, such as work heavily in overseas missions. I feel like at least if I am not going to have kids, I should really do something with the "freedom" that gives me, and I feel a strong passion for anti-trafficking.
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From:dinogrrl
Date:May 19th, 2013 11:31 pm (UTC)
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Welcome!

I'm kinda of a similar thought: if I'm not going to have kids, I should help the ones who are here already. I'm toying with the idea of joining Big Brothers Big Sisters once I get settled in my apartment and a bit more set in my job.
Also it's nice to be able to say that I want to do that to people who rag on me for not having kids on my own. Makes them shut up :p it's hard to argue with someone who wants to help others without making yourself look like a jerk.
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From:fjorab_teke
Date:May 20th, 2013 12:28 pm (UTC)
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Hey, welcome! I hope you find this is a good place to vent, laugh, and feel not so "alone."

Always remember, your life is your own, do what you will as long as you're not hurting others. And if you're compelled to do things that make the world a better place, then that is awesome! Those who tell you differently are just envious that you know what you want out of life, whereas maybe they caved in to expectations they're now regretting. Misery demands company, after all.
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From:lilithmagdalene
Date:May 21st, 2013 05:24 am (UTC)
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Good on you for laying down your needs with your husband! Don't let anyone pressure you. God's mission doesn't require you to have kids, and you could do a great deal of good for abandoned children who have no one to care for them.
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From:jaipur
Date:May 25th, 2013 09:55 pm (UTC)
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Not everyone is called to be a parent. :) Welcome to the community!